Working in Partnership to a Build a Brighter Future – B’s Story

Boy looking at lake

When B first arrived to stay with his foster parents R and S, he was just 4 years old. He was very nervous and unsettled and, was not fully potty-trained causing him to have regular accidents, especially during the night. He was struggling with his learning and finding it hard to keep and maintain friendships at school.

R and S remained consistent with his routine, setting regular alarms during the night time to wake him up to go to the toilet and altered his bedtime routines until they found a routine that worked for him.

To help in settle in to his new environment the couple gradually introduced him to family members. They remained consistent with their messaging about who was responsible for taking care of him and keeping him safe. They spent their spare time supporting him with hobbies, experiencing days out as a family together, celebrating occasions with the wider family and made his bedroom his own with decorations, posters and bedding he chose.

Through this dedication, collaborative work with the Local Authority and his birth family the positive difference is evident.

Two years on, B now calls R and S’s house ‘home’ and considers the extended family to be his family too.

He has had the pleasure of experiencing beach holidays, adventure days, friend’s parties, and now attends swimming lessons. B now knows how to tell the time and has ridden his first bike. He sleeps through the night with no accidents, gets himself ready for school and has developed self-care skills to support him through his years. His education has flourished, and his fantastic behaviour has been awarded by the school who consider him a role model for other children in his class.

It has also been agreed that he will now be with R and S long term until he becomes an adult. R and S proactively support his relationship with his birth family, are involved in his family contact and feel appreciated by his birth family.

R and S are completely dedicated to fostering and understand that previous life trauma can continue to impact a child through the different stages of their life. To be prepared to support him with any eventuality R recently completed Fostering Changes, a 12-week course provided by the agency that trains foster carers on strategies to support children in care with managing the impacts of earlier trauma.

R and S have been foster carers with Capstone for almost 3 years in the East Midlands area and R said:

“For S and I fostering has changed our lives for a much richer one. We love him unconditionally and could not imagine a life without him.”

When B first arrived to stay with his foster parents R and S, he was just 4 years old. He was very nervous and unsettled and, was not fully potty-trained causing him to have regular accidents, especially during the night. He was struggling with his learning and finding it hard to keep and maintain friendships at school.

R and S remained consistent with his routine, setting regular alarms during the night time to wake him up to go to the toilet and altered his bedtime routines until they found a routine that worked for him.

To help in settle in to his new environment the couple gradually introduced him to family members. They remained consistent with their messaging about who was responsible for taking care of him and keeping him safe. They spent their spare time supporting him with hobbies, experiencing days out as a family together, celebrating occasions with the wider family and made his bedroom his own with decorations, posters and bedding he chose.

Through this dedication, collaborative work with the Local Authority and his birth family the positive difference is evident.

Two years on, B now calls R and S’s house ‘home’ and considers the extended family to be his family too.

He has had the pleasure of experiencing beach holidays, adventure days, friend’s parties, and now attends swimming lessons. B now knows how to tell the time and has ridden his first bike. He sleeps through the night with no accidents, gets himself ready for school and has developed self-care skills to support him through his years. His education has flourished, and his fantastic behaviour has been awarded by the school who consider him a role model for other children in his class.

It has also been agreed that he will now be with R and S long term until he becomes an adult. R and S proactively support his relationship with his birth family, are involved in his family contact and feel appreciated by his birth family.

R and S are completely dedicated to fostering and understand that previous life trauma can continue to impact a child through the different stages of their life. To be prepared to support him with any eventuality R recently completed Fostering Changes, a 12-week course provided by the agency that trains foster carers on strategies to support children in care with managing the impacts of earlier trauma.

R and S have been foster carers with Capstone for almost 3 years in the East Midlands area and R said:

“For S and I fostering has changed our lives for a much richer one. We love him unconditionally and could not imagine a life without him.”

*The true identity of the carers and child have been protected.

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