1st August, 2023
Some of our best foster carers often tell us that when they foster, it teaches them to alter their whole perspective and approach to parenting.
Your role as a foster carer is to provide safety, security, nurture, love and empathy. Some of which a child might not have experienced before.
Time and time again when we speak to exceptional foster carers, they talk about how they tailor their approach to match the child that is in front of them. If a teenager has missed early development milestones due to neglect for example, they might alter their expectations and support them to achieve their goals as if they were a younger child. If the child is living with anxiety, they might take time to talk to them, explaining fine details of situations to help them prepare for events. If the child has experienced abuse, they might help them set clear boundaries and allow a safe space, ensuring they have locks on bathroom doors and highlight this to their child, taking things like personal hygiene extremely slow.
Often children in care have had traumatic experiences that may have shaped them, yet with the love, nurture and understanding of a fostering family their future can become that much brighter. One of the most rewarding parts of fostering is seeing a child grow and reach their potential as a young adult.
Part of the role of being a foster carer is to break through any negative cycles and help the child see that they are capable of so much more and that you believe in them as individuals. Whether it is watching them be the first in their family to achieve a university degree, or to travel outside of the UK, or to achieve their dream of being a dancer. (All examples we have been lucky enough to hear about from our wonderful families.)
While there may be many differences between fostering and parenting, one thing is the same, you will feel just as proud of every incredible achievement your child makes with your support.
If you’ve got any questions or would like to find out more about fostering with Capstone, fill out the form below.
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